huuuuu i always come back here when i’m at a loss for what to do and just need to journal… usually i do it in my journal but i don’t have it on me so hello old friend.
i’m really grateful for how many opportunities i have been given this lovely ol’ year. my schedule is packed and i can already tell that i’ve grown in so many ways because of them. from stepping into some of my first genuine leadership roles since entering college and proving to myself that i am capable of things i didn’t think i was, second year has already been really good.
at the same time, i wonder if it’s too much. while i was keeping it together for the first month or so of this year, in the past week i have… failed a midterm, turned in a hw assignment late, and just today, decided to play hooky from work because nothing really was happening and everybody was gone (okay that one is a little more justified). i often wish that i had more time to hang out with my friends, but i also know that i’m very passionate about the things that i have chosen to get involved with.
there’s this one part of the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson, which i read last year, that i keep remembering. while i did resonate with a lot of the book, this one part about fear of changing our identity and who we are really struck a chord with me. i realized that a lot of times, i’m afraid to try to go for bigger opportunities and roles and chances because i don’t think that i could ever be capable of becoming the person that does those things (wooo that was a weird sentence). like a year ago, i didn’t think i could ever be a good enough dancer to make it on to one of UCLA’s competitive dance teams. but now i am. and i still question if i belong there. wow imposter syndrome SUCKS.
the same ideas apply to me as a stats major that wants to go into data science or journalism. i can’t fathom ever being skilled enough or smart enough to have a lucrative time in those fields. but i know that i am. but i’m just so overwhelmed by the sheer amount of knowledge i have yet to accumulate because i’m excited but also doubtful that i could possibly understand that much. i mean yagirl can barely get through her linear algebra class, how could she possibly survive those upper division statistics classes? i guess math is different, but at the same time who the fuck knows amiright?
(on a less serious note, it’s the same with ukelele. like i’m trying to learn but it’s hard to imagine that i’ll ever get good enough to consider myself an amateur ukelele-ist i guess? right now, i’m just a girl that bought one off of amazon)
yet this year has also proved those ideas wrong. the ease with which i stepped up as a director for ASC or a workshop coordinator for Statistics Club was shockingly simple and i think i’m doing a relatively good job. there are definitely kinks to work out in my leadership style, but i’m really not doing such a bad job all things considered.
i guess at the end of the day, i need to stop being so hard on myself, and recognize that i’m doing the best i can. i’ve made hella mistakes this year but that’s kind of what life is all about right? keeps things interesting and gives you the drive to get better.
that being said, i think it’s important for me to set some goals for myself that aren’t necessarily academic or hobby-related. like yeah yeah, i wanna perform at Battle Royale (please that would be the dream) or bring my GPA up this quarter (bc rip spring quarter) and maybe land an internship but i’ve been lacking some goals for my mental, emotional, and social health. i have a lot that i want to learn how to do, and honestly, i’m like 19 (almost 20!) and have the rest of my life to slowly get through each one.
so…
- i want to practice patience. for myself, for life, for others. i need to understand that i can’t push myself to go faster, be better because those things take time. not being patient with myself is the opposite of being gentle to myself, and of all people in the world that i can control to be nice to me, it’s myself.
- also crushes don’t turn into relationships overnight so like chill out babe you got way too much on your plate to be putting 100% of yourself into a crush lMAO
- be able to recognize that mistakes are okay and will happen. nobody is 100% on top of things at all times and this year, i really challenged myself to do the most so like mistakes should be expected lolz. i kind of thought i’d be more okay with making mistakes but like yagirl was pretty good about not making them in the past and she ain’t doing so good right now about them whoops. this goes back to the being patient with myself thing though because i need to be less hard on myself.
aight well back to schoolwork bc these internships aren’t gonna apply to themselves!
kelly ❤